One of the biggest decisions couples face when planning their wedding day timeline is whether or not to do a first look—the moment where they see each other before the ceremony. Some couples love the idea of sharing an intimate moment alone, while others prefer the traditional first look at the altar. If you’re torn on whether to include this in your day, here’s a breakdown of the pros and cons to help you decide.
What Is a First Look?
A first look is a private moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time. It’s often captured by a photographer and videographer, allowing for genuine reactions without the pressure of being in front of all your guests.
1. A Private, Emotional Moment
A first look allows you to soak in the moment together, without hundreds of eyes on you. Many couples find it to be one of the most emotional and meaningful moments of the day.
2. Eases Nerves Before the Ceremony
If you’re feeling anxious, seeing your partner beforehand can help you feel more relaxed and present during the ceremony.
3. More Time for Couple Portraits
With a first look, you can take couple portraits before the ceremony, giving you more flexibility with the timeline. This means more time to capture beautiful, natural photos without feeling rushed.
4. Enjoy Your Cocktail Hour
Since portraits are done before the ceremony, you can join your guests during cocktail hour instead of spending that time taking photos. If spending more time with family and friends is a priority, I definitely recommend a first look!
5. Better Lighting for Photos
Depending on your ceremony time, doing portraits earlier in the day can help you take advantage of the best natural light for your wedding photos.
Alternatives to a First Look
If you love the idea of a private moment but don’t want to fully see each other before the ceremony, here are some alternatives:
- First Touch – Holding hands around a corner or door without seeing each other. This is a great middle ground if you want to share an intimate moment while still keeping the aisle reveal special.
- Private Vow Exchange – Sharing your vows in an intimate setting before the ceremony.
- Letter Exchange – Writing letters to read separately before walking down the aisle.
Final Thoughts: Should You Do a First Look?
Ultimately, the decision comes down to what feels right for you as a couple. If you value intimacy, a relaxed timeline, and more photo opportunities, a first look might be a perfect fit. If you cherish tradition and want the full emotional impact of the ceremony reveal, waiting until the aisle may be the best choice.
Whatever you choose, the most important thing is that your wedding day reflects your love story in the way that feels most meaningful to you!
Are you planning a first look for your wedding? Let’s chat about how to capture it beautifully!
